Why Some Men Don’t Like To Groom

The other day, I was chatting with my friend Felix, my long-time makeup artist. In our conversation, he told me that he had just launched his own skincare line for men. I was so excited about it that I told him that I would promote his products on my Instagram page. We talked for a while about the men’s beauty industry, men’s grooming habits, and the stigma behind it. He made some strong points, so much so that I felt the need to write about it. So here are five reasons why most men don’t groom.


A significant number of men (but not the majority), really seem to hate any sort of hair removal. I get it…waxing is painful. Even if your significant other is attracted to dolphin smoothness, I wouldn’t do it. However, men should take into consideration that women that wax their privy parts by a professional experience just as much pain as they do. So I think it shouldn’t be mandatory for either one.

I had a guy tell me once that he insisted on all his girlfriends having a strip landing or he wouldn’t go down on them, for him it was a deal breaker. I thought he was being a tad bit unreasonable. Though, I strongly suggest that men/women trim their nose hairs and pubic area weekly.


The art of manliness is a school many boys veer towards the older they get. However, there is this socialization factor: boys are gross, and girls are prim and proper. I believe these male gender stereotypes stick a label onto boys that can later affect how men perceive their masculinity as they approach adulthood. For instance spending hours in the mirror is something that women do, not men. So what happens when they grow up. Those guys get into suits to look presentable, slick their hair back, and are taught to do the bare minimum while caring about personal appearance. So for most men grooming is exclusively a feminine trait.

Marketing and availability

Let’s face it, there are way more beauty products for women than there are for men. If you walk into a beauty store of your choice, you’ll notice that the shelves are overflowing with products for women—lotions, hair care tools, fragrances, and correctors for every need. The male choice would appear anemic in comparison. Beyond the basics of grooming and hairstyling, there is very little to choose from in terms of male-specific skincare.

Grooming takes time

Most women take about twenty minutes to get dressed, but there are some ladies that take a longer time when it comes to showering, washing hair, putting on make-up, and getting dressed. I will admit, some women like to take their time. I mean, from the time I step into the shower it can take me an hour before I’m ready. I like to do things properly. As for men, it’s quite different: if grooming takes either time, money, or effort and if a man is lacking in any of those areas or all three the cosmetic things are the first to go. I can tell you for us that is never the case because we’ll always find a budget-friendly way to look fabulous. Plus, there are tons of resources for women.

Facial Hair

Sometimes it’s easier to let it all grow out. I know guys who won’t leave their house without shaving, but some men like the freedom of not having to shave every morning. I get it, I mean what’s the point when they’ll have a five o’clock shadow before lunch. I think most men like the idea of a smooth face but are either too busy to keep up with it or they may have sensitive skin. In either case, I would forgo the entire thing. When it comes to shaving, it really comes down to your personal preference.

So looking at it from the man’s perspective I get why most men only do the basic upkeep, it can be a hassle. But personally, I like my guy well-groomed. I think a man who cares about his appearance is incredibly sexy. One of the first things that attract me to a guy is the way he smells. A man’s scent can make me literally weak at the knees. Although most women appreciate a well-kept man, I do think that grooming should be done in moderation and no one should be forced or pressured to do something that they don’t want to do. However, I do believe a good skin care regimen for men is necessary and occasional upkeep of body hairs would be appreciated.

So, I’m curious: Do you think the same? Are you with someone that grooms? If so, what are your thoughts? I’d love to hear…And guys make sure to weigh in on the discussion!

6 thoughts on “Why Some Men Don’t Like To Groom

  1. Personally, I prefer to be well groomed. Not necessarily, to attract a women. I just feel it’s important to present a good version of yourself, in general. I think people that do that are taken more seriously. It’s also a mindset for me. I feel if I don’t shave and keep my hair within reason, I am not a focused as I need to be on what I am trying to accomplish. All that said, I am not a candidate for a men’s line of skincare products. That is crossing a masculine/feminine line that I want no part of. Maybe others feel differently? That’s fine. It’s just never going to be for me.


  2. I think you’re spot on with some of these thoughts. I would add just one thing: There is a fear for some guys (specially if they are straight, but not exclusively) that they will kill their chances of finding a partner (for fun, romance or whatever) if they don’t stick to this perception of masculinity.

    This is why this article is so great! Hearing a female voice express they would prefer a well groomed man that takes care of himself and tries a little bit harder helps break down that fear of rejection. Thank you for this post!


  3. I prefer to be well groomed everywhere if I can help it… I think as a man I should take care of myself and groom myself the same way I would want my lady to do… I’ve gotten to the point in my life that I hate leaving the house without shaving and making sure I’m at least halfway decent lol. Another thing for me is the way I smell, when I leave the house I always want to smell fresh and clean even if I’m not wearing cologne.


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